I first saw this skirt in the shop window and decided to try it on. When I saw it on me I felt just like the character on it, I felt like a Wonder Woman! I felt like I can do anything. It was like the spirit of some super heroine entered in me and I could fly, run, break the chains, win in every battle, succeed in anything I want…
I begun to think about feminism long time ago, maybe from my college days, when I was all alone in a new city, far away from anybody or anything familiar. I consider those days my rebirth because at that stage I started to have the opinion of my own.
That was the time when I started to feel and think that women are good enough as men and that they could do all the things men were doing too. I never wanted to be dependent on someone, not the parents, not the boyfriends, not the husbands which is generally speaking the rule in Mediterranean countries. Get some average girly profession, find a boyfriend, get married, have children, stay at home or in rare examples go to 8AM to 4PM average work and come home to your family.
After a year I spent in Berlin, Germany where I studied German and babysit, my eyes and my mind opened even wider to the world and I could say I became a terrible feminist. It got that bad that one time my in-that-time boyfriend (now ex), when I was carrying heavy bags from shopping from my car to the apartment and told him he could do it, he respond to me that I wanted emancipation..so I should carry it alone. Hahaha, he was right, because I wanted to be a superhero, a Wonder Woman! Now I got it!
But it was not the right feminism and emancipation that I thought it should be. I can see it now. I shouldn’t be so eager to be like men, to be like my in-that-time boyfriend. I just needed to help us both to create a partnership instead of a relationship, in life, work, fun, travels, thoughts, which I’m trying to do today. I think it’s working, I feel it’s working.
I wanted to be a Wonder Woman. I still do. In partnership everything is possible.